Key idea: Not how often couples argue, but how: certain patterns predict a breakup.
Explaining relationships
Biological
Chemical messengers such as oxytocin, which support bonding and trust between partners.
Cognitive
How we think about a partner: perceived similarity, positive attributions, beliefs about the relationship.
Sociocultural
Proximity, familiarity, social norms and cultural expectations (arranged or individual-choice relationships).
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Gottman and Levenson (2000) recorded 79 couples discussing a disagreement, then followed them for 14 years.
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Key idea: Four patterns of talk during conflict predicted divorce; the strongest was contempt.
Gottman's four warning signs
Criticism
Attacking the partner's character, not the problem.
Contempt
Mockery, sarcasm, eye-rolling: the strongest sign of trouble.
Defensiveness
Excuses and blaming back instead of listening.
Stonewalling
Shutting down and refusing to engage.
Criticise · Mock · Defend · Shut down
What supports it
- 14-year follow-up
- Recorded talk, not self-report
- Points to teachable skills
Where to be careful
- Prediction, not proof of cause
- Lab conflict talks
- Mostly US couples
What HL adds: The culture extension: in cultures where disagreement is expressed indirectly, the same words or silence may carry a different meaning, so the four signs may not transfer as they are.